It was a lovely Saturday. There was a season of rain that made it unnecessary for me to water my outdoor flowers. I puttered around in my house and did Saturday kinds of things. There was a baby shower for a friend at 4:30 in Dover, and I planned on attending. Youngest Daughter was driving over from DC to attend as well, and I wanted to see her as well as celebrate her good friend’s expected baby boy.
It dawned on me that I had a package that needed to go to the UPS store in Dover – an Amazon return that was actually past it’s return time, but I checked with Amazon and it appeared that I could still return it. However, that store closed at 4:00, so I decided to go a little early, take care of that and then go to the shower.
I had made 9 pie crusts the night before and put them into my refrigerator because it had gotten late and the bursitis in my right shoulder made it feel as if it wasn’t a good idea to roll them out just before trying to sleep. The morning passed with usual speed, and suddenly, I realized that I had better get on those before it got any later.
Certain Man, who had been traipsing in and out of the house, doing any of a number of important things, stopped at the counter where I was rolling out the crusts and said, “I’m going to the chicken house. Before you leave, Just stop out at House #2 and let me know that you are leaving.”
I looked at the clock and said, “I need to be leaving in 45 minutes,” (thinking that maybe we could just say our ‘good-byes’ now and save me the trip to the chicken house).
“That’s fine,” he said, as he went out the door, “I’ll be around.”
I hurriedly finished the crusts, stashed them in the freezer, gathered up the gift that I had for the new baby, and got into better clothes. I had some new leather tie shoes that I save for good occasions, and even though they aren’t stylish, they are comfortable. Because they are rather expensive, I had been trying to keep them dry so they will last longer. Even though it had been so rainy, the day had cleared. They were perfect for this outside baby shower. I finally was ready, but I was, of course, running late. I backed our trusty minivan out of the garage and headed for the chicken house. Oh, boy! The ground was really squishy. I could hear the water rolling off the tires as I drove in the grass up to House #2. I certainly didn’t feel like getting out of the van with my good shoes. So, I blew my horn a couple of times. There was no response. Sigh. I guess that I would need to go to the door and holler. I was NOT going to go all the way into that stinky chicken house when I was on my way to a baby shower. No siree! If he didn’t answer, I would just go on my way. I cautiously opened the door to the mini van and stepped out onto the very soft ground beside the main door to House #2, then up onto the muddy cement pad that goes into the chicken house and opened the door. Pee-yew! This place does not smell like a party! The lights were very dim and the nearly grown chickens were resting quietly. This did not indicate that Certain Man was anywhere inside. I stuck my head in a little way and looked. And hollered. There was no response.
“Huh! I know he said house two, and it’s getting later and later!” I hollered again. But there was no response. “Well,” I decided, “I guess I will check over at House #3 before leaving.” I stepped back, shut the door and turned to step back to my van.
It wasn’t there! IT WASN’T THERE!!!
I thought my heart would stop. I looked around frantically and saw my van, ambling under its own power about a hundred feet away, headed aimlessly towards House #1. I had forgotten to put the simple thing in park!
I do not run. Pretty much because it doesn’t go well for me. I’ve been known to tell my family that if they see me running, they had better run, too, because something terrible is about to happen. I think the last time I exerted any amount of speed was when I was trying to save 2-year-old Liam from getting onto the road back in 2013. You can read that story here: https://maryannyutzy.com/2013/08/27/that-shadows-fall-on-brightest-hours/ (I actually thought about that at this moment! Isn’t it peculiar how things go crashing through a person’s head at times like this). I think I was trying to find an excuse to not do what absolutely needed doing and demanded doing immediately! Oh, where was Certain Man when I needed him? Except, wait a minute! I didn’t want him to know about this – at least not at this juncture.
I started off hurriedly in the same direction that the mini van was headed. I had shut the door when I got out, so I knew that somehow, I had to get to the van, open the door, get inside, and get it stopped before it hit anything. I didn’t seem to be gaining on the vehicle at the present speed, so I tried to turn things up a notch. The ground was very soggy, and my poor shoes squished in protest. I saw that the van was getting slower and as I hurried, I watched it inch its way into the middle of a very large, deep puddle between the two chicken houses, and stop. In retrospect, I realize that it probably was not going any farther, but at the moment, all I could think was, “It’s going to take off any second. I need to get there! As in NOW!!!” I thought dismally of my resolve to keep this pair of shoes clean and dry, and marched bravely into that very large deep puddle. By the time I reached the van, I was in water up to my ankles. I yanked open the door, reached across and put the gearshift into park and pulled my feet, first one and then the other into the van after trying to “dog-shake” the water off before setting them inside. I sat briefly, relieved that there was no damage to the vehicle, then put it back into drive and inched my way out of the very large deep puddle, and hoped not to get stuck on top of everything else.
I sat on the chicken house lane at the end of the chicken houses and looked at the time. I decided that I would try to find Certain Man in House#3 but that I would make it short. I motored around the end of House #2 and drove down to the main door of House #3. I made sure the van was in park and blew the horn, then repeated the whole “Poke my head in and holler” business. I thought I saw him down the house a bit, but didn’t know if he heard me. I decided that I was just going to go on without talking to him, and began to turn the van around when he poked his head out of the door, cheerful as all get out. I decided that I wasn’t going to waste time telling him my story until later. I told him that I really needed to get going if I was going to make the UPS store, and he told me to “Get goin’ then!” So, I did!
I looked at my shoes and thought about going into the house to dry them off, but they actually looked none the worse for their trauma, and there were no water marks on my hosiery, so I decided to not worry about it and go to the UPS Store (I actually made it with about 5 minutes to spare) and then on to baby shower. Which is exactly what I did and had a wonderful time. My feet didn’t even squish in my shoes when I walked, and in time, the shoes seemed to dry out just fine.
And so, I tell you again. I don’t run! And if you see me attempting to run, after you make sure that nothing is chasing me, would you please check to see if I’m chasing something that is needing to be caught? And chase it for me?
I’d be grateful!
It was a lovely Saturday. There was a season of rain that made it unnecessary for me to water my outdoor flowers. I puttered around in my house and did Saturday kinds of things. There was a baby shower for a friend at 4:30 in Dover, and I planned on attending. Youngest Daughter was driving over from DC to attend as well, and I wanted to see her as well as celebrate her good friend’s expected baby boy.
Some of you have asked about my “nasty fall.” I told my siblings that I would write the story for them and it has been evolving over the last ten days and is finally DONE!!! I am amending it slightly (but not much) for my blog.
My good husband (who, I hasten to add, has been very kind and understanding and considerate) had something to say the other day when I said that I was still working on “My Story,”
“I’m not sure why this is taking so long. You could say it in three sentences and be done with it!”
I said, “That wouldn’t be any fun!”
“I know,” he said, with a sigh, ” It just isn’t how you do things. You need to go on and on and on . . .”
(Yes he did! He said that!)
So I am going to do this! I’m going to tell it in three sentences and you can stop if you want to and delete the whole thing. But first– How Daniel would tell it (In less than three sentences).
How I would tell it in three sentences?
“I tripped and fell going into the doctor’s office. I thought I had broken my hip. I hadn’t.”
And then, for those of you who want a distraction at this particular time –this is the story of how that all happened: (And if you don’t want to read it all, Please don’t feel obligated. After all, I do “go on and on and on . . .”)
For some time, I’ve been troubled by bouts of bursitis in my right shoulder. Then, in the last intense months of caregiving, I developed the same in my left hip. It hasn’t been any fun. I’ve had shots at previous times that were extremely effective, so I made an appointment to get repeats in both before the reunion and especially before the week when our grandsons were coming. In the midst of all the confusion, I missed the appointment because I hadn’t written it down in the right place. I had in my head that it was a Friday morning, when, in fact it was Thursday. Bummer! I had to wait for Dr. C’s assistant, H.M,, to get back from his vacation and caught up on his patients. So the next available appointment was made for Thursday, July 8, 2021.
Between the time that I made the first appointment and July 8th, there came a day when I sat down HARD on the arm of the loveseat when I intended to sit on the cushion to comfort a teary eyed Charis. She and I both heard something crack – initially followed by nothing too noticeable, but — “I’m pretty sure,” I told a wide eyed Charis, “that it was only the sound that a finger makes when you pop the joint — like cracking your fingers . . .” She was satisfied, but as time wore on, there was rather annoying discomfort in my tailbone.
Then the morning of our July 3rd reunion, Liam and Frankie were helping with the tea, emptying the thawed containers of concentrate into the cooler and rinsing them out. I put a towel down to catch the inevitable drips- and they did a good job! I was actually impressed with how little ended up on the floor. A bit later, however, I came flying out of the kitchen to get something at the laundry sink, and missed the towel by the minutest inch and my left foot went crashing into the toe board under the sink with vociferous force! I was still barefooted, and there was no protection at all for my toes. Ow! That really hurt!!! I hung onto the edge of the laundry sink trying hard to keep from crying. And when I gazed upon my foot, at least three toes looked crooked and were turning purple. I couldn’t get them into my shoe so I stuffed them into my sandals- which I seldom wear these days, and went off to the reunion. I did mention it a time or two, but there were so many people that I loved to distract me, and it seemed inconsequential in the larger scope of things. Besides, my beloved family is known to laugh helplessly about such things and I wasn’t quite ready for that yet!
We got home from the reunion, and things were in a grand upheaval at our house because all of our offspringin’s were home and there was so much (and so many) needing attention. But those toes really hurt! And my left hip really hurt. And my right shoulder really hurt! And my tailbone really hurt! I couldn’t sleep on my right side, couldn’t sleep on my left side, have never slept on my stomach, and the tailbone was making it hard to get comfy on my back. I got to thinking how providential it was that I was scheduled for a visit with P. Orthopedics. I would have them check out the toe and the tail at the same time! When Thursday morning finally rolled around, I was feeling pretty vulnerable.
Before I left to go in I was talking to Christina and said, “Would you please pray for me this morning? I feel like a car wreck, going in there, with all these parts hurting. H.M. and I go way back, and he is always so kind to me. I’m afraid I’ll have to cry if he’s in the least bit sympathetic.. So please pray that I don’t cry.” She, understanding and caring as ever, duly promised, and off I went. Our Minivan was going to the beach later that day with the grandchildren and Jesse, so I was in Daniel’s pickup so as not to make a time crunch. I had forgotten my handicapped permit, so I needed to park some distance away. But I was feeling hopeful and cheerful, so I got parked and headed up to the door. There was a car parked in front of the entrance, where a woman was helping a very slow and incapacitated man into the car. I took a step up onto the sidewalk, and the two of them looked up briefly. We were exchanging pleasantries and I was beginning to feel hopeful and happy (and grateful that I wasn’t in as bad shape as the man in the loading zone) when that terrible feeling of catching my sandal on an obstruction happened so quickly that I didn’t have time to think.
SPLAT!!! I went down hard on my right hip and I felt my elbow scrape against the cement. The immediate pain was impossible to ignore. There was greatly concerned noises from the woman. She ran over to where I had landed, then said , “Can you get up? I’ll run get help!” She went back over to the man, came back over to me sprawled helplessly, but struggling to get up, and said, “Yes! I’ll run get someone! He will be fine until I get back!”
“Yeah,” I heard the man say, “I’m not goin’ anywhere!” and she ran off.
I decided that I HAD to get up somehow, (I hate when people try to pick me up!) and I struggled to get to my feet. I finally got to my feet and tried to take a step. Oh, wow! I almost went down again. I grabbed the corner of the building for support and ceased my endeavors. It felt like the ball of my hip joint was going to go up out of the socket, and I couldn’t walk. I stood stupidly on the spot. I was SURE my hip was broken! Two staff people were there shortly, one on either side, trying to assist me a few feet to a convenient wheel chair that was sitting in the entranceway. The pain was overwhelming, and I was so embarrassed and frustrated and aggravated! Somehow I got into the chair, and they were reassuring me that they were going to get me cleaned up. By now I WAS crying, (without any specific sympathetic murmurings) and as we rounded the corner, the waiting room was wall to wall with people that were all looking at me. My right elbow was bleeding but the staff said I needed to sign in, and pushed me up to the window where, somewhere, about eye level, was a clipboard.. I betook my arm with its mutilated, hamburger-looking skin,
and put an illegible “MYutzy” on the line. Then someone had pity on the poor girl and took me back to a room. where they cheerfully cleaned up my elbow and put some cream on it. They decided to “just keep you back here,” to wait for my appointment with H. M.. I was very relieved about that, to say the least. They said that someone would come and get me for X-rays shortly.
I wasn’t really thinking much about my left hip and right shoulder, tailbone and toe at this point — but at the mention of X-rays, I suddenly remembered the real reason for this visit in the first place. I wondered what they were going to do about all that. Of course, since my hip was probably broken, the other items would be of no consequence, but nevertheless, I asked. They went and conversed with H.M. and he said “Not the toe. I don’t have time today. But we are going to X-ray both hips and that will ‘catch the coccyx’ and we can see what’s going on.”
The next thing I knew, I was wheeled into X-Ray, and put into all sorts of uncomfortable positions. I lay there on that table- thinking the worst, sure that I was going to need hospitalization/surgery/hip replacement — Something radical, and it was not a good feeling. I confess that it didn’t feel very fair- lying there, SURE my hip was broken, and wondering why in the world God let it happen to me- like I should somehow be exempt. It took some serious soul work to quiet this rebel heart (and I felt like I NEEDED to sort things out before I actually knew I was going to be alright). I’ve walked many a mile with this Heavenly Father, and I know that He is to be trusted. And so I did some praying on that table, repeated some precious verses, and thought of songs of comfort. Strangely enough, the song that kept ringing through my head was the third verse of “Away in a Manger!”
“Be near me, Lord Jesus,
I ask thee to stay
Close by me forever
And love me, I pray
Bless all the dear children
In thy tender care
And take us to Heaven
To live with thee there.”
My heart was quieted, and I felt the presence of the Holy Spirit, reminding me that there were lots and lots of people in far worse situations than I was and that many didn’t have the comfort of knowing they were not alone. The tech got the films they needed, and then instructed me to get off the table and back into the wheelchair. She did not offer any assistance at all. (“H-m-m-m. Maybe that hip isn’t broken after all,”) Then someone pushed me down the hall, back to a room, and I waited some more. I heard patients being brought in and out around me, heard casts being cut off, muted conversations, and then finally, about 45 minutes after the fall, H.M. brought his cheerful face into the room and looked at me with a quizzical expression.
“It’s not broken!” he announced. “Your bones are actually perfect!”
I could hardly believe him! “It’s not???” I asked. “Then what is wrong?“
He explained about bone bruises and arthritis and all sorts of things and then said, “Your tailbone is fine, too. Just arthritis there. However, we are going to do the planned injections to the right shoulder and left hip and I think you should go for physical therapy for this hard fall. Or you can just wait it out. It will get better, though. And the more that you use it, the better!”
“That’s the second time I’ve fallen on your sidewalk,” I ventured ruefully. “You would think I would know enough to be careful. But because of my toes, I was wearing my sandals, and they just caught somehow . . .”
That caused him to pounce upon my exposed purple toes and waggle them back and forth. “I can tell by just examining them,” he said, “if they are broken, and these are not!” He waggled them back and forth some more. I refrained from hurting him. “There might be a crack in the one,” he said reflectively, “but we can’t tell unless we X-ray, and we wouldn’t do anything about it anyway, so it really doesn’t make sense to X-ray it.”
And suddenly, I felt a whole lot better about my toes and my tailbone. But this hip! What was I ever going to do? After the two promised injections he turned me loose. He was in a bit of a hurry because he had broken a tooth on a frozen chocolate chip (!) and needed to get out of there for a dentist appointment. I stood in the middle of the room, feeling unable to move an inch, much less actually walk. “How am I supposed to walk?” I asked, hating the piteous note in my voice.
He looked at me with a strange look on his face and hesitated a bit.. “I honestly don’t know,” he said. “You’ll have to figure it out!” and he was gone. No cane? No walker? No nothing??? “Oh, Lord Jesus, help me now!”
I started to hobble to the door. Two steps. Stop. Regroup. Deep breath. Three steps. Stop. Grab the counter. Hold on for dear life. Whisper a prayer. Breathe deeply. Hobble some more. I finally made it to the checkout window, made a return appointment, picked up the paperwork for the Physical Therapist and then hobbled by starts and stops through the door, out to the waiting room. It was empty! That was a relief! Then I hobbled some more and held onto stuff and finally got myself through the door and outside where I was going to wait for Christina to come and pick me up. I was just about ready to give in to copious tears when I heard the sliding doors behind me open and a young woman came out from the Physical therapy office that shares the building with my orthopedic group.
“Please, ma’am,” she said concernedly. “Can I help you? You look like you need assistance!”
I turned tearful eyes towards her and said, “Thank you, but I think I will be alright. I’m going to wait out here for my daughter who will be here soon. But thank you!” She looked like she didn’t quite believe me, but after another worried glance went back inside. Pretty soon, I saw Christina and Jesse pulling into the parking lot and I hobbled over to the minivan and got in beside my Beloved Son in Law. Christina took the keys to Daniel’s pickup and headed out to where it was parked. Jesse took me home and gathered up the grandchildren (who were worried sick) and Deborah and headed off to the beach so as to distract everyone, and I tried to find a comfortable place where I could sit and ponder.
I kept thinking about what H.M. had said to me about “the best thing you can do for it is to keep moving. Use it!” And I thought about the fact that it was probably sound medical practice to not give me a cane or a walker, because it forced me to try to find a way to move and walk. (I decided to forgive him for that). Then I thought about the fact that with the grandchildren here, there was more than enough that needed doing, plus Rachel and Rob (Youngest Daughter and Beloved Son in Law #2) were moving on Saturday and I wanted to make food for that as well as help if I could. There was also the issue of needing to take the boys back to Ohio somewhere along the way, and lots of digging out to do. Thrown in on top of everything else was Dave Hertzler’s funeral and I didn’t want to be left out of helping with that.
I decided that if “using it was the best thing I could do for it,” I would use it. And so I did exactly that, using pain medication and trying to rest before things got too out of hand, and we made it through. We even took the boys back to Ohio on Sunday. We had to take Daniel’s pickup because the A.C. and the transmission on our minivan started acting up. Unknown to me, that was a blessing because I actually can sit more comfortably in Daniel’s Colorado than I can in our minivan. So that was providential. There were three boys on the skimpy back seat, but even that was no problem at all. They did extremely well!
then came breezing home to our own bed, our own house and believe me, it was sweet!
So there you have it – the story of the fall and the ensuing week and I’m here to tell you that I’m doing far better than expected. So much so that I’m not going back to Physical Therapy unless this healing curve reverses and I start to feel bad again. I’m still hobbling sometimes, and there is still pain sometimes, but I’m far better than I ever dreamed and for this and so much more, my heart gives grateful praise!
You know, sometimes things just do not go the way we would like! Certain Man has been wanting to tear down half of the older chicken house (commonly referred to as Chicken House #1) for quite some time. He has been planning this specifically for over a year, and last fall, he contracted with Warfel Contstruction to replace the roof on the half that he wanted to keep. When that was completed, he went in and removed a strip from the building that would separate the two structures so that he and his friend, Steve Parsons, could close in the end wall of the part that he was going to keep. He left the tin of the roof intact because he didn’t want it raining in until he got the end wall weather proofed. He considered tearing the old part down with a couple of church frolics and some rented dumpsters and maybe a borrowed backhoe, but he kept weighing the reality of the intensity of the work and wondering what it would cost to hire a local demolition company that he had used before. He finally called for an estimate earlier this month, and the price was considerably less than he had expected. However, his last flock of chickens was giving him grief and he was very uncertain about whether he could afford to hire the demolition crew. So when the settlement was in and there was enough to cover, he called Macklin’s to schedule. Macklin’s put it on the schedule for February 24-26th.
Well, as you know, we’ve had some bad weather and the roof was very icy. The chicken house was ready except for removing the one strip of tin that covered the split between the two ends. “Couple of screws,” he told me, “like six or so, and it won’t take much.” No, he didn’t need any help. “Piece of cake” once the ice was off. I noticed that he was keeping an eye on that roof and would sometimes talk about how he could get up there and get it done. He wasn’t too concerned, though, because Macklin’s was still a week out, and things were supposed to warm up. He would get up there first chance he got and take care of it.
Then Friday, someone from Macklin’s stopped by in the afternoon and asked if they could start Monday- (the 21st). Daniel said he thought that would work, he just needed to get up there and get those few screws out! And he also needed to call Dave Burkholder to get the last of his things out of the end that was being torn down. Dave was on the trigger and got everything out. Saturday evening he sent Daniel a text. “I got everything out that I want. Tell Macklin to tear it down.” So the only thing left to do was to get those few screws out and it would be ready to roll. But Saturday, whenever CM checked it, there was still enough ice on the roof to concern him. He kept thinking that he could put an extension ladder on the loader of his bucket and anchor it really good and crawl out over and do those screws, but he decided to wait and see what the morning would bring.
Sunday morning dawned so sunny and clear and by the time we got home from church, most of the ice was melted. After lunch he announced he was going to go out there and take those screws out. I was a little concerned and said as gently as I could, “Sweetheart, it IS Sunday, and we really shouldn’t think we need to work on Sunday–”
I was obviously not weighing all and considerations, and he was sure that he needed to do those screws because “Macklin’s might want to start first thing in the morning!” So out he went. I asked if there was anything that I could do, but he said that there was not, so I was happily ensconced on my favorite chair reading the Sunday school papers.
About a half an hour later, I heard him come in and thought “That didn’t take very long!” I looked across the family room and kitchen to the utility and saw that he was removing his work parka. He placed it carefully over the hamper in the laundry room, then walked soundlessly across the kitchen to the living room, and I noticed that he was limping. He came over to the middle of the living room, and stood there quietly.
“Could you get me some dry clothes?” He asked. Surprised, I looked more closely. He was soaking wet, muddy, and looking rather pitiful, his face pulled tight with pain.
“Daniel! Whatever happened???”
“I need some dry clothes,” he said, a bit querulously.”
“Did you fall???” I asked, more than a little alarmed, and struggling to unload the papers on my lap..
“Yes, I fell.” He said, obviously disliking the admission.
“Off the chicken house roof???!!!” I almost wailed.
He looked at me like I had taken leave of my senses. “Of course off the chicken house roof. I need some dry clothes!“
Yes, yes! Of course! And I scrambled upstairs to find him something warm and dry. I came back downstairs to help him change, and tried to determine if he was bleeding, bruised or injured in any way, but he just kept saying, “I’m fine! I landed hard on my tail bone and that really hurts, but I’m fine!”
“But what happened?” I asked, trying to figure out how this man who is exceptionally careful in places that are slick, fell off the chicken house roof! It just didn’t make sense.
As he explained it to me, the side of the roof towards the morning sun was clear, but alas! The other side was not. After he had crossed the peak to the other side, he noticed that there was quite a bit of ice still on that side. “This isn’t going to do,” he said. I’m going to need to go get the tractor and loader and a ladder and come up from the bottom.” As he was turning back to go back over the peak to the other side, his foot hit something really slick – a patch of ice or just an extra slippery wet spot and down he went, sitting on that tin roof and sliding down with no way to catch himself! He must have had some momentum by the time he reached the bottom because he overshot the ice and cement at the bottom and landed in a mud puddle about six feet out. People have since asked him, “What did you think on the way down?” His answer? “There wasn’t time to think. One minute I was standing on the roof, and the next thing I knew, I was flat on my back in the mud!”
We got him cleaned up and into some warm clothes, and I began to think. “What if there is a fracture of some kind?? What if he should jar it somehow and sever his spinal cord?” My worries became anxious words, and I began to urge him to seek medical attention. That was NOT a happening thing. No, siree!!! So I decided to invite his two oldest offspringin’s into the muddle. He was on his chair, obviously uncomfortable, but able to hear, so I texted them. Christina and Jesse were on their way home from Ohio, and Christina didn’t get the text. However, Deborah was right on it.
“WHY was he on the chicken house roof?!?!?”
I explained what was happening and she was over to check on him in short order. He answered her questions, but he was mostly worried about finishing up taking the screws out of the rest of the tin. It turned out there were a lot more than just six screws holding things down and with the possibility of Macklin’s coming the next day, he really wanted to go out and finish them. He was pretty sure he could do it if he had some help. Deborah, always better at talking him into something than I am, talked him into letting her go out with him to finish the screws, then she came back in the house to try to talk him into getting it checked out. He was having none of it! “I’m not going into that ER to sit for hours and hours! There’s nothing wrong, and even if I broke my tailbone, there’s nothing they can do!”
About then, Christina got her text message and was on the phone, joining the fray, It almost looked like it was a loosing battle, but neither daughter was giving up. After this had gone on for a while, I told Christina (in CM’s hearing) “The best way to get Daniel Yutzy to do something is to tell he can’t!” Whereupon she yelled (on speaker phone,) “Daddy, don’t you DARE go get that checked out!” That made him laugh, and between that and Deborah’s professional opinion, they convinced him to go. Jessr had checked on the ER and discovered that there was zero wait time at the ER, so we headed for Bayhealth, Sussex campus around 5 o’clock. I couldn’t go in, of course, but I waited in the parking lot, hoping he would be out soon. Of course, even though he was back to the treatment area almost immediately, he was back there for a long time. He texted me regularly, telling me what they were doing, and then said that they were waiting for the doctor.
After almost two hours he texted, “Waiting on someone to read the X-ray of the spine. Nothing wrong with the pelvis and they also checked my head for a concussion, and nothing was wrong.”
“Oh, boy!” I thought. “He’s been here two hours and is telling me that there is nothing wrong???” I began to get worried. He raised such a fuss about going in the first place and now kept saying that he was “waiting on the doctor.” I figured that he was back there getting more and more impatient and that there was probably nothing wrong and that he was going to be insufferable when he came out etc., etc., etc.. So I sent him this text, hoping to amuse him – “Could they scan your ‘stubborn streak while they are there? And maybe send you home with some medication that will make you bearable if you were right and we were wrong???”
That did not amuse him.
Finally at almost nine o’clock, he said he was on his way out. I drove the minivan around to the entrance and he came out and gingerly climbed in. He was very subdued, had a sheath of papers and a prescription to pick up. He talked about all of these things before I finally said, “But what was the diagnosis???”
The man has two fractured vertebrae!!! (Lumbar #1 and Thoracic #12) They aren’t bad enough for surgery or even a brace, but they do want him to consult with an orthopedist. The doctor said he should take it a little easy, but that it’s not serious enough to even say “no heavy lifting.” The fact that it’s more comfortable for him to walk than to sit, is supposedly a good sign. CM did ask about his chores and such and the doctor said he could keep on with his usual schedule. However if he notices worsening symptoms to get in there NOW! (Yesterday, reading over the instructions from the ER, I noticed that the instructions DID include “no heavy lifting,” but CM says that they told him otherwise).
There are many things for which to be grateful. CM was able to get up on his own accord and motor into the house. Any of a number of things could have happened to make this turn out so differently. We are not minimizing the seriousness of this. It’s impact will likely give him some pain for some time. Hopefully the intensity of it will subside in a few days or weeks, but there is the possibility for it to be an ongoing issue. But he can walk. He is able to do some of his work. He has good help, and he has the prayers of people who love him.
For this and so much more, my heart gives grateful praise.
It’s been an interesting week at Shady Acres.
Some of you are aware that when the virus started back in March, our adult children were very directive with us about staying home, and their intentions if we didn’t at least do our parts to be safe. And yes, we did have one of those offspringin’s threaten to “come over there and steal all the batteries and slash all the tires if Dad can’t figure out how to stay home!” Daniel and I talked it over and we decided that we were going to listen to our adult children, and that we would do our best to be careful, not just because they said so, but also because of Blind Cecilia, who is quite compromised at any given moment even without a virulent strain of the Coronavirus. I made the decision in early March to keep her out of her day program, and we’ve been given much grace in the months since then.
On Christmas Eve, Daniel started feeling like he was getting a head cold. His nose was stuffy and he was tired. He kept falling asleep during our Family’s Christmas Eve Zoom gathering, and I was concerned. His daughters wanted him to go get checked, but the next day was Christmas, and then it was the weekend, and he thought he was feeling a lot better. However, when Deborah needed to be tested on Monday morning for her job at Hospice, we prevailed upon him to go and get tested as well. 28 hours later we received the results and Daniel was positive for COVID-10.
“It’s a false positive,” he intoned over and over again. “I just don’t feel sick enough. Haven’t lost my sense of taste or smell, I’m not short of breath, don’t have a temperature, no sore throat, no cough, no nothing! I just think it’s a false positive!”
Well, of course I needed to report his positive test to the state of Delaware because of Blind Cecilia, and they said I had to take her and myself and go be tested the next day (Wednesday, the 30th). Now I was feeling a little “off” but I kept thinking that the imagination is a very strange thing, and I am highly susceptible to the power of suggestion. You know, it’s like, “Does my throat maybe hurt a little bit?” (Swallow, swallow). “I think maybe my throat does hurt a little bit!” (Swallow, swallow.) “Yep, pretty sure that my throat is getting right sore, and it feels like I have a tickle starting in my chest!” (Cough, cough!) “I believe I just might have COVID, in fact I’m sure I do!” So since I know that I’m prone to that sort of negativity and imagination, I decided that I would nor imagine anything for Cecilia or myself until we had the test results. Since they were done on Wednesday, I expected them back on Thursday.
And so we went about our business, and I moved to the spare room so that Daniel would have the master bed all to himself and I wouldn’t have to worry about catching anything from him (if I hadn’t already) and maybe we could both get some sleep. Deborah brought over a pulse-ox monitor, and some alcohol wipes and a temporal thermometer for me to use with Cecilia The state asked me to keep track of levels at least twice a day (I knew that I’d be checking a lot more often than that) and to go into the hard quarantine mode immediately. The first day Cecilia’s oxygen levels hovered around the low 90’s, but they have consistently been above 95 since, and she has never had a temp that registered about 100. And since her temp is often fluctuating, I didn’t know if that was a symptom or not. She was extremely grumpy, though, so much so that I said that she maybe didn’t have COVID-19, but I was pretty sure that she had “GRUMPYCOMPLAINT-2020!!!
When the days kept passing by with no results, I became even more confident that we were going to be fine. The results are usually back in a max of 48 hours. We did have a holiday, but in speaking to someone at headquarters, I was told that they were not stopping for a holiday or anything, but rather working on through. I also thought that, due to the seriousness of the pandemic, they would hustle the positive results out faster. However, we kept on staying home, keeping to ourselves and Daniel kept mumbling something about “false positives,” and was as busy as ever with his farm and his yard and his chickens.
Around 5:00 this evening, there were two quick messages on my cell phone and our results were in. I checked them both, feeling a strange mixture of anxiety and relief, There it was, plain as day, Both of us tested positive for the virus. Yes! Both Cecilia and I have COVID-19. Now what? Well, for the most part we are going to do what we’ve been told to do, get lots of rest, drink lots of water, keep track of the oxygen levels and the temperatures. I’m going to see to it that Cecilia doesn’t just sit, (It’s important to keep moving) and I plan to keep on being active in my usual household things — and I plan to pray and ask others to pray as well. There’s a great cloud of witnesses who care and will help us bear this burden, and we’ve already had phenomenal expressions of care and tangible gifts of food, texts, and even a state of the art air filter. God’s hands and feet in the form of people who love us is overwhelming.
At this point, it looks like it could be a fairly light case for all three of us, but I’ve been warned that things can change in a very short time. I do not feel panicky or frantic, but I have a deep respect for the scientific research behind this pandemic, and it is nothing to ignore or take lightly. There are a lot of heartbreaking stories that we are hearing every day, and the stories are far from over. As God’s people, may we be known as prayer warriors and encouragers. I promise, there are never too many of either.
I love you all – please pray for us!
~Mary Ann for the Shady Acres Crew
There has been an emotional dam
Since March of this year
When I realized that my life
“Hold onto your heart,” I told myself,
“Give Grateful Praise.
This isn’t forever.
It’s probably not even for long.”
But it was.
And it has been.
And it will be.
The months have passed.
There has been
“Hold on to your head,” I told myself.
“You love people on both sides.
Alienating loved ones will do you no good.
Be true to yourself,
But love without rancor
Or the audacity that says
You cannot be taught.”
And so I held on to
My head and my heart.
But somewhere along the
Long and arduous pathway
Something became numb.
Whenever things became heavy
I set them away from me.
I assumed it would be easier
Now it is later.
The dam that held
This dark river back is leaking
And the water won’t stop.
I feel old and numb.
The dark water is cold.
The Challenges are real.
Sometimes it seems that
What wants to
Take me down
Is a selfish sadness.
Grieving the losses is healthy
Sadness is honest.
But if I only let myself feel it when
I cannot hold it in any longer,
It’s neither honest nor healthy.
It’s too much to carry alone.
Through the dark waters,
above the roar of a dam breaking
I hear the voice of my Shepherd.
“Come to me, all of you who are tired and have heavy loads, and I will give you rest. 29 Accept my teachings and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in spirit, and you will find rest for your lives. 30 The burden that I ask you to accept is easy; the load I give you to carry is light.”
Ah, my Abba-Father, here is my quit claim.
I am giving you myself, for I am not any use
To my friends, my family or my self on my own.
Live your life in me. Carry my burdens. Inhabit my praise.
Then shall my heart give honest, grateful praise.
Shady Acres Farm * 7484 Shawnee Road, Milford DE 19963 * Christmas, 2020
Dear Family and Friends,
The farmhouse at Shady Acres is quiet. It’s been quiet for much of this past year as we, like you, have adjusted, adapted, coped and lived out our lives in a world that is quite different from anything that we’ve experienced in our lifetimes. Many of us are facing this season with heavy hearts, missing faces from our family circles that will never be there again, dealing with the absence of traditions that have lent meaning and life to our family’s heritage, and struggling to keep things as normal as possible for the people we love and who count on us. And, of course there is more: Financial concerns, health issues, quarantines, fear, unrest, uncertainties, misunderstandings, loneliness, and anger . . . so many things in a world gone so wrong.
It would be so easy for this Christmas letter to turn into a lament, and while I’m not saying there is no place for that, I’ve been thinking a lot about something in the familiar Christmas story in the Holy Bible:
“Fear not! For behold I bring you good tidings of great joy, which shall be too all people,” the Angel said to the Shepherds on a Bethlehem night, 2000 years ago. “For unto you is born this day . . . a Savior, who is Christ the LORD!” (Luke 2:10, 11)
What wondrous news! The reality is that, in this year when we all have felt the need for some good news, there is this ageless, immutable, irrevocable, good news already in place. There is a Savior, a Redeemer, and it is Christ, the LORD. I believe this, and it has given hope & comfort & courage & peace.
Our family has had to weather some really tough times this year. For Daniel and I and our children, the biggest thing was the death of Daniel’s oldest sister, Lena. She was a beloved sister and aunt to her big biological family and a loyal friend to myriads more. In the days and weeks following her passing we discovered over and over again just how far her circles reached. She had that unique ability to make each person think they were her favorite, and the loss is inestimable. Grief is not a novelty in our family, but I cannot get used to the sudden gripping sadness that pops up at the strangest times since Lena is gone. The reminders are on every hand; jigsaw puzzles, mint tea, warm blankets, lilac candles – the list is as varied and unpredictable as she was. Some of the time, I can think that she’s just off traversing the country in her motor home and will be back, but then I remember that we won’t see her face again this side of Heaven, and there is a tightness in my throat that chokes me.
When the pandemic began, our offspringin’s united in urging (nay, ordering!) us to stay home. I had already decided to take Cecilia out of her day program at Easter Seals because of how compromised she is under normal circumstances, but I had done that hoping that maybe by mid-summer, she could return to her regular activities. Well, it’s mid-December and there are very few signs that she will be going back anytime soon. With very few breaks, we have been taking care of her 24/7 for over 9 months. It has greatly curtailed the usual activity and traffic at our home, and it hasn’t always been without angst, but for the most part, we have been at peace with this situation. “To everything there is a season . . .” and this is the season for serving in place.
Our out of state family extensions have all had a most eventful year. Raph and Gina sold their house in Sugarcreek and moved to Canton, Ohio, in August. The house is very well suited to their needs, and has quickly taken on the personality of their family. It’s just so right for them. The boys, Si, (11) Liam, (10) and Frankie (9) are settling into their new school and making friends, doing chores and involved in numerous extracurricular activities. Ellie, (3) is a bundle of energy and spunk. We did get to spend a week with the four children in early November while Raph and Gina had some time away (to Mexico, no less!) and it was delightful. Raph is still working in Sugarcreek, at nuCamp RV in Customer Service, and Regina works part time at First Federal Bank in Berlin. The boys finished the 2019-20 school year with remote learning in Sugarcreek, but the schools they attend in Canton have stayed open with restrictions and guidelines that appear to be working for now.
Lem and Jessica, in Washington, DC, with Stella (3) began looking for a new place to live just after the first of the year. What an incredible blessing it was that they could sell their house and find another very suitable place and get moved into the house before the pandemic prevented any such activity! Their new home is a town house in a quiet neighborhood, with room to spread out. This has been integral since both Lem and Jessica have had to work at their jobs from home, and Stella is also home all the time. Lem & Jessica are both still at their respective jobs – Lem now in his eight year as a psychotherapist with Alvord, Baker and Associates, and Jessica with the US Government Accountability Office in her fifth year as a research analyst. Rachel and Rob (mostly Rob) helped out with child care until October when Lem and Jess hired a nanny for Stella’s care. She seems to be perfect for the job, and we not only thank God for her, we pray for wisdom and courage and patience and strength for all three of them. Whew! This delightful Stella-girl is wonderfully enthusiastic and articulate beyond her years!
Rachel and Rob have been a big part of Stella’s life in this past year. “Uncle Rob” is one of her favorite people (along with “Auntie Rach”) and has spent countless hours keeping her occupied while her parents worked. When COVID hit DC, all hotels were shut down, so Rob’s Employer, Towne Parke, officially terminated their employees so that they could collect unemployment benefits. The months have dragged on, and Rob has now applied to go back to college beginning in February. We still pray for a job that will challenge and satisfy him, as well as allow him to pursue his Masters’ degree. He and Rachel have been in very close quarters these last nine months and they, too, are considering a move to a place where they won’t need to share a house with three other people. We see this as wise and healthy planning on their part. They have adapted and sacrificed and tried to protect their own space, but there comes a time when it’s a lot better to have your own kitchen, as well as a place to work that doesn’t oust your spouse from the tiny living space that is home. The particular idiosyncrasies of this pandemic have made both Rachel and Lem’s jobs extremely stressful as clients want things fixed and think that the therapists should be able to do something! Adults want to blame their parents, the schools, their children and if all else fails, the therapist. Earlier this year, Rachel said to me, “Mama, I have never been yelled at by my clients as much as I have this year!” That’s a sad commentary on the adults of this world. Shoving the blame never has helped much. Yelling hasn’t, either. In any case, our DC offspringin’s are hopeful that the year ahead will be easier.
Deborah has been in her Ambleside Cottage for almost two years. Her cat, Julius, has been there nearly a year and a half, and “Ju-Ju” has been a great companion for Deborah. He is old, but he is not a mean-spirited cat, and that is certainly a bonus. There has been an impressive amount of rain this year, and Deborah has had to fight with the rising water table presenting as water in her basement. This is extremely disconcerting to her, and she and her Dad, always partners in anything challenging or new or antique or perplexing, have cast about for solutions or reasons or anything that might bring this all to a screeching halt. So far there haven’t been any lasting solutions. It’s been a hard year for our Deborah-girl. She was one of the first Delaware cases of COVID, and she had it hard. Just as she was recovering, her Aunt Lena moved in for what was supposed to be the summer and early autumn. Deborah had built her house with her Aunt Lena in mind. She had a suite built that was especially suited to Lena’s dwarfism, and it was not only very accommodating, it was also beautiful. Deborah took great pains to have it inviting and warm and very private. Lena was only here 45 days before she died of (what they said was) an aggressive sarcoma. Though, as I said, we all feel this loss intensely, for Deborah, it has been profound. She’s still a Hospice nurse (now in her 11th year with Delaware Hospice). Grief and its many faces are no strangers to her. So, we pray for her, and we are thankful that she is doing very well again. She is just home from a quick trip to DC, then Ohio, then back to DC and then home, taking and bringing family Christmas to each of us since we cannot be together this year.
Jesse and Christina and Charis have been our “go to” resource over this last year. They have gotten groceries, picked up meds, lent their hands to work and moving projects and have been the best sports ever about it all. Jesse has been able to work from home during the pandemic, and things at Burris remain busy and full of changes even amidst the major disruptions around the country. Jesse joined his brother, Caleb in redoing their parents’ house after a fire did significant damage. Long hours in the heat of the summer and dark of night paid off. James and Karen, who were with Jesse and Christina for most of the renovation work, moved back home in late August. There were no expensive diversions this year for Jesse and Christina in the form of trips or purchases, but they, along with all of us, kept their heads, held onto their hearts, and are stronger for it. Charis finished her school year with remote learning, and started this year with remote, switched to Hybrid, but is currently back to remote until January 11th. She is a bright spot in our lives, often spending the night, and lending her helping hands to any of a number of projects. She loves to climb on Grandpa’s haybales, and spends many happy hours outside on the farm. It’s difficult to believe that she is already 11 years old, and taller than her Mama. (Incidentally, Charis took our Christmas picture this year).
Our church family has been an incredible source of support and diversion over this last year. We’ve done birthday parades/drive-byes for many of our members. We’ve been working to finance and install an elevator so that everyone can have access to the basement Gathering Place when we are back together again for meals and celebrations. We’ve added a missionary family to our budget that is going with MAF to Haiti. We’ve cooperated with each other in the guidelines and precautions issued by our governor even when our ideas about such differed greatly. We learned to live with Zoom services for everyone at first, and eventually for both those who could attend live services and those who felt more comfortable at home. We’ve had a significant death. This year has stretched us and blessed us and given us a sense of unity that is precious.
And so we count the blessings of this past year. It’s easy to want to enumerate the losses, to think of all the things that we can’t do – things that have even defined us as a couple, like company, food, our family home for Christmas, Daniel’s Christmas Village (not up this year), my writing, and more. As the days have passed, I’ve been impressed that I should be concentrating instead on what can be done instead of all the things that can’t. We can still bake and deliver cinnamon rolls for friends and neighbors. I can still make party mix and Hot Chocolate mix to give away. I could even write my Christmas letter (which I just did) and mail it even if it is late. We can still pray for the people we love and care about (which we also do).
Whatever your losses this year, may the Miracle of the Season, the Gift that was given to us as a baby, fill your aching and broken hearts with hope. May you realize that God walks with us in our sorrow. May you remember that He said that He has already borne our griefs and carried our sorrows (Isaiah 53:4). He loves you. He cares. He is here. He promised.
Merry Christmas! May we look at the coming year with Hopeful Hearts.
Daniel & Mary Ann
Because you asked . . .
Smaller Size Bread Recipe
¾ cup dry milk powder
2 ½ cups hot water (1 lb., 4 oz.)
½ cup sugar
4 teaspoons salt
¾ cup warm water (6 oz.)
2 teaspoons sugar
2 heaping tablespoons dry instant yeast
½ cup Crisco®
Scant 7 cups King Arthurs Bread Flour® (2 lbs. 6 oz.)
Mix hot water, dry milk powder, salt and sugar together in Kitchen Aid mixing bowl using wire whisk attachment.
Dissolve yeast in warm water, sprinkle 2 teaspoons sugar over mixture and let rise.
Melt Crisco® in microwave just until melted (it shouldn’t be HOT).
Add about half of the bread flour to the first mixture and mix well.
Add yeast mixture and mix well.
Add melted Crisco® and mix well.
Change wire whisk attachment to dough hook. Add the rest of the flour. Turn speed to either 1 or 2 and allow the dough hook to do its work. The dough will become smooth and elastic. This can take several (maybe 5 or more) minutes. Take the dough hook out, smooth the top of the dough and grease with Crisco®. Cover and put into a warm place. Allow to rise until it looks double in size. Punch down and divide into three loaves (1 lb. 7 oz. to 1 lb. 9 oz. each). Punch, smack on the counter, and slap each loaf until you do not hear any more “whistles” of air coming out. Shape into loaf, grease top with Crisco® and put into pan (8”X4”). (Then I take a fork and jab the dough at about one-inch intervals all up and down the loaves to get rid of air bubbles. People say it isn’t necessary, but I’ve been doing it for 40 years and I think it is!!!)
(This is a good time to start your oven preheating to 450°.) Cover the loaves and let rise again in a warm place until about double in size. (A good way to check is to gently touch the edge of the dough and if your finger leaves an imprint that does not spring out, it is very ready to go into the oven.) Put the three loaves into the oven, allowing space between them for even heating and immediately turn the oven back to 400°. Bake for 9 minutes. Without opening oven door, turn the temperature down to 350° for 15 more minutes. Take out of oven, remove from pan, put onto a cooling rack. Butter tops to have a softer, shinier crust. Allow to cool. Put into a heavy-weight plastic bag that is a good fit. Can be frozen.
If you have any questions, please feel free to call me @ 302-422-5952 (home) or 302-382-0418 (Cell).
~Mary Ann Yutzy
They came pouring into the kitchen, hungry for home cooked food, and I looked at this motley group of young, sophisticated, and brainy young people and wondered what made them tick.
Mostly strangers to me, I listened intently to the spirited exchanges and thought about their life stories. What made them tick? What was in their hearts? I was standing at the counter by the fridge, working on cinnamon rolls when I became aware that there was a handsome young man standing at my right elbow, watching me.
“So,” he said said suddenly. “What would you say is your favorite hymn?” He caught me flatfooted, off guard. H-m-m-m-m. Why would this worldly wise, cynical millennium want to know a thing like that??? Trick question? Honest seeker? I would have been much more prepared for a cooking question. I looked into his face for a clue. It was emotionless. Calm.
My favorite hymn. For me it was a no brainer. I have a lot of hymns that I love, many that speak to me in the depths of my heart in times of grief, times of despair, times of rejoicing, times of praise. But there is one . . .
I turned my eyes away, and gave him the scoop. “My favorite song,” I almost whisper, “is a very common song. It’s old and it may seem common place. The song is ‘Tell Me The Old, Old Story,’ but the thing that captivates me most about that song is the last verse.”
“Tell me the old, old Story when you have cause to fear
That this world’s empty glory is costing me too dear.
Yes! And when That World’s Glory
Is dawning on my soul
Tell me the old, old Story-
“Christ Jesus makes thee whole.”
He turned abruptly and walked away without comment, without acknowledgement. I went back to my morning tasks but my heart was pondering so many things. Then this morning, in our Monday Morning Family Zoom Meet, we were talking about favorite songs, and this story came back to me with the words of that last verse impacting me somewhere significant and deep.
“This world’s empty glory.”
What is that? How does it cost me? How would it show, if it were “costing me too dear?” Would I know? Would you know? And if you did, would you tell me? And if you told me, would I hear you?
“Oh, Lord Jesus, let your eyes look me through. May there be a clarity to my thinking, a trust in your ability to hold me steady, and whatever else may happen, let your Glory dawn on my soul with peace. Any other glory will not carry me through. The gaudiness and the glitter may distract me now, but I know from experience will turn to sawdust around me, and I can almost taste the emptiness in my mouth. It isn’t worth it.”
It just isn’t worth it!
When I was a little girl, and always wanting something to do, sometimes on hot summer afternoons, My Sweet Mama would send me out to fetch a collection of dandelion stems.
“Get the longest ones you can find,” she would say, and away I would go to find the exact thing that she asked for. I suspect that she would “make hay while the sun shone” (as she sometimes put it) and got some short jobs tackled while I was out there pulling stems, but eventually I would return with some stems that she deemed good enough.
She would fill a short jar with cold water, and then she would select a sturdy stem and carefully make two half-inch slits in one end of it, making four little loose sections at what was now the bottom of the stem. She would blow into the other end to be sure that it was unobstructed, then she would put the cut end of the stem into the water and blow a steady breath into the other end, making a delightful noise as the bubbles rose to the surface around the stem.
It was so exciting, to see Mama start these little things for us. We would blow vigorously into the end of our very own miracle toy and watched the bubbles rise with fascination. As the bubbles rose, the small pieces of dandelion began to curl up and over themselves in the most satisfying fashion. It would form the most delicate curls that would hang in round perfection off the bottom of a common green stem. We could use up many a long, hot hour with our homemade diversion.
This week, my sister in law, Rose, gave me an armload of rhubarb. I brought it home and stuck it upright in a tall container overnight. Yesterday, I cleaned it and trimmed it and put it into my big sink in water, while I cut it up and got it ready for the freezer for pies and rhubarb sauce. It was magnificent!!!
We had just gotten home after 6 days away, and I kept getting diverted from my task by various “homecoming rituals.” Some of the stalks of rhubarb lay in the water longer than expected. I came back to the sink and found my rhubarb starting to curl in a very familiar way. I found myself suddenly transported to a cement porch step on a hot summer afternoon, and wondered at the lurch in my heart.
I tried to shake the tugging memory by wondering if Rhubarb and Dandelion are related somehow, and examined the stems of the rhubarb as I diced them into a measuring container for pies. My examination of the stems revealed the familiar looking curls, but a solid center. They really aren’t related, I decided, and finished the chopping and bagging and freezing.
The memory kept dogging me today, though, so I decided to go and try to find some dandelion stems and make some curls. It’s been years, but I haven’t forgotten how to do it. “I’ll just pick me a few stems, and see if the curls are as similar as I thought,” I said to myself after lunch was over, and headed out the back door.
I stopped just outside the garage in the hot summer sun. It felt oppressive, and I felt like I could hardly breathe. I took a quick look over our lawn, and not seeing a single speck of yellow, looked again. Not a single dandelion anywhere. We haven’t waged war against dandelions in our yard, but Certain Man’s careful manicuring has made them non-existent. I felt strangely disappointed that there were none to be had, but escaped back into the cool of my kitchen and got ready for my afternoon intermediates Sunday School class.
I’ve thought happily about my innocent, carefree, childhood and the path my life has taken and the curlicues of the side roads and detours. I thought about the memories that are so good and about a Mama who would stop her work to blow dandelion curls with her children. I thought about the world in which my grandchildren are growing up and I wished for them Rhubarb pies and Dandelion curls on hot summer evenings.
And then I know . . .
They will have their own recollections of childhood, and will trace those memories some day. They are growing up in a totally different time, to be sure, but this Grammy prays that when memories come crowding in on a random Sunday afternoon, they will be remembered with a gladsome and grateful heart. And I add another prayer that part of those memories will be of a Grammy that not only prayed for them, but also loved them fiercely.
My heart gives humble, grateful praise that I can call them “mine!”
Certain Man has had quite a respite from stories being told about him and his escapades. He has not had a lack of escapades, as you can probably guess, but the scribe in the family has had a great dearth of time over the last few years, notably since Certain Man retired some two and a half years ago. This is not because he is demanding or any such thing, but rather that it’s a lot easier to concentrate when I am alone than when a man (that I have found interesting as well as powerfully attractive) is around. “Time alone” has been in very short supply for Certain Man’s Wife!
However, the last week at Shady Acres has had some monumental happenings that have caused me to realize again that the possibilities of boredom are rather remote. The days from August 1-4, 2020, held a whirlwind of activity that left me amused and pensive and astounded and very aware that “Shadows fall on brightest hours, that thorns remain,”
A couple of weeks ago, when the Washington Yutzys came home for an extended period of time, Certain Man and I were astounded to hear that the mattress on the spare bed in the one room was not fit to sleep on, and that the one in the other room “left much to be desired!” Certain Man and I have had a mattress in the master bedroom that was expensive, and had a ten year warranty – which expired earlier this year. Certain Man has an inherited sleep disorder that seems to radically disturb his sleep with restless leg syndrome, sometimes some muscle cramps and a funny restless movements that affects his arms which, for want of something better, we just call “the Fidgets.” Here of late, he’s also had some increasing back and shoulder pain, leading him to believe that our mattress must be the culprit. Now I happen to like our mattress very much, but when it seemed like we should provide a different mattress for the one spare room, we discussed getting a better mattress for our bed and sending each mattress down a room, with the oldest finding a new home.
The ads for the Sleep Number beds had caught CM’s eye and given that he likes his mattress fairly firm and I prefer not to sleep on Gibraltar, there came a day when I found a sale and ordered a new Sleep Number bed for the Master Bedroom. Certain Man was In agreement, and in fact, acted like he was relieved. Then we gave the one set of mattress and box springs away, and moved the two other sets down one room, and the new bed came, was set up and we were ready to get a good night’s sleep.
Alas and alack! Thursday night was the first night on the new mattress and we had not been given any instructions (save written) about this beast, and while I went to sleep and slept soundly, Certain Man tossed and turned, adjusted the number, tossed some more and finally moved to the spare room where the old mattress was calling his name. Friday night I read some things, caught some adjustments that needed to be made to his side and he tried again. The same thing happened. I slept like a rock. He tossed and turned and adjusted his number again, and finally gave up and moved to the spare room again.
This really bothered me because he had planned to help our Beloved Son in Law #1 move furniture into his parents newly renovated house on Saturday morning. I was sure he would be exhausted with getting so little sleep. On Saturday morning, I bestirred myself and was barely motoring when he came breezing in from doing chores and said that he was heading up to Bontragers.
“I’m already late,” he said darkly when I asked him where he was heading so early on so little sleep. “I said I’d be there by 8:15!” I thought he should at least eat some breakfast, but when Eldest Daughter called and said they were getting a breakfast sandwich from Starbucks, I stopped interfering.
A little over four hours later he came in, exhausted but triumphant. “All done,” he announced, “at least for today. It went really well!” He told me about the morning, and then BSIL#1 came in with a ham and cheese sub for his lunch as a thank you for the morning. There was one for me, too, and we sat on our chairs with a cool drink and thanked God for the job well done and a chance to rest a bit. He took maybe three bites of his first half of sub when the phone rang.
It was April, and her voice was just a bit frantic. “Is Daniel there?” She asked. He was. “Well, could he come down here to Mom and Dad’s and rescue us??? A pipe broke in the basement, and there is water pouring out, spraying all over the place down there!”
I looked over at my husband and felt sorry for him. I wondered what he would do with his barely started sub, because, for pity sakes, you can’t let a friend’s basement fill up with water on a Saturday afternoon while you lounge around eating a sub! But this man is a plumber from way back and he knew exactly what should be done.
“You are going to have to give me a few minutes,” he said with quiet authority. “We are just eating lunch. But go down and turn of the water main to the house!” There was a short discussion about what else might need doing, and then he resumed eating his sub.
I was worried. Visions of water pouring into the basement, of the possibility that just maybe someone wouldn’t know how to turn off the main, and knowing that there was a house full of company and probably people were needing water for some reason kept flitting through my head. Of course I had to say something about the possibilities.
Wrong thing to do. “Hon,” he said a more irritated than I liked, “someone down there knows how to turn off the water main. It’s not that hard. If they don’t, it’s high time they learned.” All righty, then. I would not mention it again. And eventually he went down, came back home to use some home tools on a stubborn fitting, went down again, went into ACE Hardware for supplies and by late afternoon, had the thing fixed and working again.
In between all of this activity, he was trying to find a lift chair for BSIL#1’s parents. When helping to move furniture he had discovered that an old lift chair of theirs no longer worked, and wanted to see if he couldn’t procure another, more serviceable one. He had several leads, made several calls, and by evening, had found one through another friend. There were calls made to determine when the trip should be made to Lewes to pick the chair up. BSIL#1’s Papa, James, was going to go along with him to fetch it home. Certain Man wanted to go and get it Sunday afternoon. James preferred Monday morning. I kept wondering why, when Certain Man had so little sleep, he wanted to interrupt his Sunday afternoon nap for such an endeavor. Finally I asked him. He looked at me a little thoughtfully and then said, “Well, when I know I have to do something, I like to get it done!” But he did decide to not go on Sunday, and he caught a nap in the afternoon, slept a little bit better on Sunday night, and set off on Monday morning with James, and together they loaded the chair, moved some furniture around for the lady from whom they got the chair, and brought it back to Milford. They removed the broken one and situated the new one and Certain Man came home, thinking that he could work in his woodshop for a while. That was a comforting, pleasant thought.
And then the phone rang again. It was Elaine, sister of Friend Gary, who was in the hospital. Elaine thought that he just be discharged today, and she had a problem. There were severe storm warnings from the tropical storm, Isaias, and Gary’s car was parked in the driveway, under the carport, under a big tree. She didn’t want it there in the storm, and she also wanted it moved so she could get out with her car if she needed to go fetch Gary home from the hospital.
“If you could just come and push it out into the yard,” she said, “and then I will call Minner’s Towing to come get it and take it to Kings. It’s not been acting right, anyhow, so it needs a good goin’ over. But for now, I just want it out of the carport. All you need to do is push it into the yard. I can steer it for you!”
I saw Certain Man look thoughtful, like he was hatching a plan of some sort. “Why don’t I just bring my trailer up, and load it up and take it in to Walls Service Center and they can fix it,” he asked, “rather than just pushing it out into the yard.”
“No, it has to go to King’s,” said Elaine. “That’s where Gary wants it. That’s where he always takes it. They do all our work, but that would be fine if you want to take it up there.”
“Alright,” said my spouse agreeably, “I can take it to Kings. Just let me get my tractor loaded, and I’ll be up and maybe James can help me get it loaded and I’ll take it on up to Kings for you.” The gratitude was effusive. It was one less thing for Elaine to worry about in this already worrisome time. CM called James, and James said that he would be glad to help, and so CM sallied forth to do the next thing on his list.
Monday was Eldest Daughter, Christina’s birthday and I was busy most of the day, making a birthday supper for her, so I didn’t pay a whole lot of attention as Certain Man flitted in and out, now getting this, now getting that, and conversation was sparse. I was busy doing my stuff, he was busy doing his. We were on a tight schedule for supper because some friends were planning to come and do a birthday parade for Christina at 5:30. We actually did really well at getting around and supper was fun and actually restful.
About halfway through the meal, Certain Man suddenly started talking about his trip to Kings with Gary’s car. “James and I loaded it,” he said, “and that went pretty well. He went back to his place, and I took the car on up to Kings. When I got there, the guy told me to just put it out there behind another car that was there, waiting for repair, so I backed up ahead of that car and went to unload it. Well, after we had loaded it, it had been put into park so it wouldn’t roll anywhere on the trip up to Kings. However, I had a problem! You can’t put Gary’s car out of park without putting your foot on the brake. The fenders on the trailer make it impossible to get the doors open wide enough to get into the car. I didn’t know what in the world I was going to do!” Around the table, the rest of us, Jesse, Christina, Charis and I waited eagerly to hear how he managed to ever get this car off the trailer.
“Well,” he said, smiling at the memory of it all, “I finally rolled down the window and climbed in through that, got it out of park and climbed back out again!” For some reason, this struck us all as funny and we laughed heartily.
“I wonder,” I said, “if King’s has a surveillance camera. That would be something to see!”
“I’ll bet,” said someone else, “that they were in there watching and getting a good laugh out of it all!”
“That’s not all, though,” said Certain Man. “When I got the thing out of park and started pushing it off the trailer, suddenly it started rolling a lot faster than I expected and I saw that if I didn’t do something fast, it was going to hit the other car that was parked there. I still couldn’t get into the door because of the fender of the trailer, so I dived in through the window again and hit the emergency brake and got it slowed down enough to stop it in time.” He told the story with such a calm and humorous slant that it sounded like just another day in the life of Certain Man, Deacon Dan, Daniel Yutzy, and we all laughed with him.
“What a blessing,” I thought. “That he was able to get that car stopped in time. He really didn’t need another thing to go wrong on these miserably hot days.” And then it was time for the birthday parade and we all went out and enjoyed the noise and the faces of people we love and the many birthday wishes. We came back in, cleaned up supper, had some Rhubarb Pie and Christina and Jesse went back to their house and I was ready to sit down and do nothing for a bit when Certain Man dropped a bombshell into the middle of my peace.
“Hon,” he said, rather hesitantly, “I didn’t want to say anything before supper, but I think I might have broken a rib when I dived back through that window to hit the emergency brake. I heard something pop and it really hurt, but I might have just pulled a muscle or something . . .” His voice trailed off.
Of course, I was immediately on alert. “Sweetheart, let me see where it hurts! Why didn’t you say something? Shouldn’t you go and get it checked out?” He obediently showed me where it hurt, and there was no bruising, but I thought it looked a little swollen, and he couldn’t bear to have me touch it except very lightly. “I think you should go and get it checked, Daniel” I said, “just so you know what’s going on.”
“Ain’t gonna’ do it,” he said stubbornly, the pain lines around his eyes. “They don’t do anything for broken ribs, and I’m not going to go down there and sit at the hospital when they aren’t going to do anything anyway!” He settled back into his chair with a grimace and I got my cell phone and texted his nurse daughter, Deborah, who was working. He will listen to his daughters better than he will his wife, and I needed reinforcement. It didn’t take long for the phone to ring, and Deborah was insistent that he should go and get it checked. He is better able to resist instruction when the daughter isn’t physically present, and he employed all his fatherly powers and still said he wasn’t going to go. “At least not tonight,” he said with finality. “Maybe I’ll go in the morning if it’s still hurting.” I finally texted our family doctor and (wouldn’t you know?) he sided with Daniel. “U can have it looked at in the morning.” He texted. So that settled it. I found a sort of binder that was around here, and CM slept better that night than he had any since the new mattress came. He got up Tuesday morning, and thought that he must have just pulled a muscle, he felt so much better.
Then came noon time. CM came in from whatever he was doing outside and washed up at the kitchen sink. He turned to grab a hand towel and something reminded him, rather insistently, that something was not right! The look on his face told it all, but he still managed to get out, “I don’t know, Hon. Something happened with my side!” He got himself over to his chair and this time it took very little persuasion to get him to go and get it checked out.
He came home several hours later with the diagnosis. Sixth rib, on the right side. Broken, but not displaced. He was sent home with instructions to not overdue it, and to not lift anything “too heavy.” No, they had not given him a rib binder. (“It doesn’t help any when it is just one rib.”) They sent him home with no pain medicine except to say, “See your family doctor. Take ibuprofen until then,”
Tuesday was the day that Milford, DE was hit with the tropical storm, Isaias. Shady Acres had been running on generator for several hours, but the electric was back on by the time that CM returned from the ER. He had gotten into his recliner when the electricity went out again. I heard the generator make its thunderous starting noise and went in to see if CM had noticed. He was on his feet, clearly upset.
I said, “Well, we are back on generator!”
He looked at me with something akin to panic. “Hon! We don’t have power!”
“Yes, we do,” I counterclaimed. “I heard the generator come on!”
He barely let me finish. “We do NOT have lights, so we do NOT have electricity,” he stated with urgency, and headed for the door, with me right behind him. Something was dreadfully wrong. Our generator starts within 7 seconds of the power going off, but this time, it misfired. It was hot. Our chickens were due to go out in 10 days. This was serious! We got to the top of our ramp in the garage when the generator fired again, and this time, it caught and the current flowed. But it had been off long enough to trigger all the alarms in the chicken house. CM went down the ramp and out on to the asphalt. I stopped at the alarm box and reset the alarms. H-m-m-m-m. They cleared and reset. All was well.
“Daniel,” I said to my spouse who was heading for the chicken house, “you do not have to go right now. The alarms all cleared, and you are supposed to be taking it easy.” He set his jaw and acted like he had no intentions of listening. “Really, Daniel,” I said, pressing my luck, “the alarm are all cleared and everything is fine. You don’t need to go right now!”
He hesitated on the lane, then said resolutely, “Hon, I’m going to go check it out. I know the alarm says it’s okay, but I need to put my eyes on it to be sure that everything is okay!” So while I grumbled to myself about stubborn men who had broken ribs and didn’t listen, he headed out to the chicken houses. As I watched him go, out of the corner of my eye, I saw something amiss at the pasture fence. Our six beef cows of varying sizes were happily chewing on the leaves of a hefty limb that had fallen on their fence and given the state of the fence, it wouldn’t be long until they would discover that freedom was within their reach.
“Look there,” I said, pointing at the congregation of bovines. “That fence is going to need to be fixed or they are going to get out!”
He never broke stride. “It’s going to have to wait until after I get back in from the chicken house,” he stated firmly.
“But Daniel,” I protested to his departing back, “you aren’t supposed to lift heavy, and you are supposed to take it easy! How are you ever going to get that big limb cut up and off the fence when you aren’t supposed to lift anything heavy? I mean, a chain saw and—“ I should have saved my breath. He was on his way to the chicken houses and there was no turning back!
It was a good thing he went. Oh, the alarms were all okay, but something else was not. It wasn’t long before he was back, visibly shaken and also upset.
“There is a huge flood in house #3,” he said as he gathered boots and changed into coveralls. “A ¾” water line, going to our cooling pads somehow came loose and it’s been running awhile and I’m going to need to get the tractor and start pushing the muck out of there. With chickens going out next week, I need to really get things taken care of as soon as possible!”
Middle Daughter, Deborah, was with him. “Mom,” she implored, “do something! See if people can come help. He has no business trying to do this with a broken rib! I will get in there and help, and see what I can do, but that’s the biggest flood I’ve seen in Dad’s chicken house and it’s too big for just him and me!”
I was eager to comply, and with help from both Eldest and Middle Daughter, calls were made, and help came before we knew what was really happening. Josh and Lawina came and with help from Granddaughter Charis, and her friend, Amanda, cut up the limb and got it off the fence, piling the wood into a nice stack, and fixed the fence. BSIL#1 came with his brother Caleb, and they worked in the chicken house along with Middle Daughter and friend Ashley while Certain Man drove tractor, pushed out the biggest part of the liquid mess and orchestrated bringing in over 30 bales of straw to scatter about. He also fixed the leak, helped pick up some of the dead chickens and oversaw the cleanup. All the while, his broken rib was talking to him and it wasn’t saying anything nice to him at all. It was a very tired man who went to bed that night in that bed that he hadn’t been able to get comfortable in for the any of the previous nights – and slept the best he had for quite a while.
And so we have muddled through. The mortality numbers from the flood were not nearly as bad as anticipated (we had to open the end doors and that makes it difficult to cool a chicken house on a day as hot as that day) and the efforts made to cover the wet and keep the chickens out of the mud were also very successful as well. Certain Man has been sneaky about doing things that are deemed risky by his wife and daughters, but it seems that the more we holler, the sneakier he gets. However, there are some built in consequences and I would like to note that he is sitting on his chair a whole lot more than usual and he is walking a bit more gingerly than is normal for him. Oldest Granddaughter and Middle Daughter have been helping to pick up dead chickens in the mornings and if it doesn’t absolutely have to be done, he is doing a fairly good job of “letting it slide.” (There’s just so many things that won’t wait!0
And that’s the news from Shady Acres, where CM is still my favorite, and I’m trying to determine if that particular rib that he broke has any connection to the rib that God used to make a “Help Suitable” for Adam all those years ago. I must say that I am certainly attempting to be just that – a Suitable Help. I’m not always sure I’m doing so well, beings I’m so unsuccessful in keeping him contained. But I’m also counting my blessings that a generator “just happened” to misfire, at this particular time setting off all those alarms. I’m also grateful that this man, who sometimes can frustrate me exceedingly when he won’t take my suggestions, decided (as usual) to go against what I thought was best for him and thus discovered that chicken house leak before it got any worse. It would have been at least another two hours before someone was in it to check, and the damages would have been far worse. As it is, though it was bad enough, it’s had time to clear up fairly nicely before the chicken catchers need to be in there.
And so, once again for these blessings, and so much more, my heart gives grateful praise!