This has been a most interesting week.  Lots has been accomplished, just showing me how much more needs doing.  Why do I put off the things that need doing — especially reports to the State of Delaware that are due monthly for my two handicapped ladies?  Over the past couple of years, things have increased when it comes to paper work.  I asked them last week if they wanted me to take care of my ladies, or if they wanted me to write reports.  I did not receive a satisfactory answer.

The State LOVES a paper trail.

I need to account for every penny of their money with receipts and dates and reasons for purchase.  These must be signed and dated.  (For years, they wanted Cecilia’s “signature” on the back of each of her reports, even sending them back if something wasn’t there.  I would drag a hard surfaced book to her lap, position the report on it, close her fingers around an ink pen, put it to the paper and make a scribble of some sort that would satisfy them.  I finally reneged at this senseless operation, and was granted permission to sign her name.)

I have to account for every prescription drug they are on, every OTC med they are on, and every time I give them something from their Standing Medical Orders.  I have to write down when I got the prescriptions refilled.  I have to write down how many refills are left on each one.  This doesn’t sound daunting until you figure out that Nettie is on 13 Prescription drugs and one of those is filled weekly, plus two over the counter drugs.  Cecilia is on 12 prescription drugs and three over the counter.  I figured out that, in a given month, I dispense almost 1,300 medication doses.  That is to be with NO ERRORS.  It is overwhelming!  It takes about 4 pages each to report.

I have to get a paper filled out and signed by every doctor I see with them.  As you might guess from the amounts of prescriptions, there are lots of doctors.  Family practice, Neurologists, Orthopedic specialists, surgeons, eye doctors, ear doctors, dentists, psychiatrists, gastroenterologists.  And Nettie is on a medication that dictates weekly blood work which needs documentation.

Then, there is a report that needs to go in every month concerning whether all the objectives were reached in their individual life plans.  With that, a report of all the activities they may have participated in during the months time.  And whether there are any concerns.  And whether there were any extra noteworthy achievements.  (This is all on one page, with the individual “must haves” set down in a chart with a blank spot at the bottom for the rest of the report.

My precious Cecilia.  Non Verbal.  Many behavior problems.  She hates the uncertainties of a store.  She is quite a trip.  This month, I got into trouble because the powers that be, somewhere up in the state, did an audit of her entire life account.  They wanted to haul me in for an all day in service to inform me of the proper procedures for filling out the spending money accounts.  One month, Cecilia had shingles, and Nettie had just come to live with us, and I didn’t get to the bank before the end of the month.  I pretty much didn’t go anywhere except where I had to.  So I requested permission to put some expenditures from August down on September’s account when I had withdrawn the money.  The team agreed.  They knew how intense those months were.  But it didn’t set well with the higher ups.  They also wanted “the provider to include Cecilia in a more direct way as to how her money is spent” (ha!) so they got all up in a heaval and instructed my case manager to make an appointment.  How blessed I have been with my case manager and staff nurse.  They were livid at this mandate.  They collaborated on a terse note to the perpetrators of said note and more or less informed them of the situation, that they were NOT going to make this 20+ year provider come in for an in-service and promised to “instruct provider” themselves.  There was a short note that came down the line agreeing to this “modest proposal” with instructions that “if there were any more problems, the provider needed to attend an in-service.”  I was pretty much going along without any knowledge of all this until yesterday when my case manager came out and gently informed me of what they had been through all on my account.

All I can say is that my Heavenly Father knew that I had all that I could bear over these last few months, and He tempered the wind that blew against me.  I could not be more grateful for His loving care over me and my two ladies.  I am even more grateful that His Protection came through the direct line of authority over me.  Through His grace, I had the trust of my case manager and nurse.  If they were suspicious of my motives, my actions or even uncertain about the care that Nettie and Cecilia have in our home, they would have had ample opportunity to bring me down.

Lord Jesus, once again I offer grateful praise!

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Matt’s family has set up a web log through Caring Bridges to post information:


This is the link: 


www.caringbridge.org/visit/matthewwolfer


 


You may need to set up a visitor’s account, but that is free and relatively simple.  Once you are on the site, there is a link that says “Read Journal”  You will want to click on that to read all that has been posted.  Plus there is a guest book where you can leave messages for the family.


And my thanks to Carlene Swartzentruber for alerting me to this website!


 


 

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News From Raph!!!


Hey —


We just got back from vacation. It was wonderful. We stayed in a pretty nice resort ate good food and just had a great time. .


 


Chitwan28


We saw some wild rhinos and we got to swim with the elephants. we rode them down to the river and went swimming with them. it was one of the best things about the vacation.


 


Chitwan35


 


And one morning 3 of us guys rented motorcycles and drove around Chitwon for a gouple of hours. that was also one of the highlights. But seeing wild rhinos ranks way up there


Chitwan32


 


We were supposed to go to Hetauda after vacation but due to roiting and unrest we are back in Kathmandu. we might be here for ten days or we might never get to Hetauda. We don’t really know what is going to happen. So yeah thats what’s going on.


Tell everyone hi and that i’m doing good.. Talk to ya later.


  Love,    Raph

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This just came in on our “Yutzy Family Network” From Matt’s Dad,  Terry.


We deeply appreciate the outpouring of prayers, concern, and support for Matthew. We’re so grateful for your love for him and for us.



As a result of the car accident on Friday morning, Matthew suffered multiple skull fractures, a broken jaw, broken sternum and fractured ribs, and a chipped pelvis. The accident severely bruised his brain and lungs. He is currently sedated and on a ventilator to assist his breathing.



One day after the accident, his condition was “critical but stable.” Doctors and nurses report that his first night and second day were “uneventful,” what his trauma doctor said was “the best we could hope for at this point.” Today, he remains in basically the same condition but with an elevated fever.



It’s difficult for doctors to gauge Matthew’s responsiveness because of the sedation so they periodically reduce it. At those times, although he’s not yet responding to commands, he exhibits “purposeful movement” of the head and all four extremities. We’re very grateful for that.



Although we are more than three hours from home, some of our closest friends live nearby. One family met us at the emergency room parking lot, parked our car, stayed with us each day, and provided a place for us to sleep. They are the Ulmers, homeschool friends who lived one mile from us for 10 years before moving to NC last year. We’re planning that David will resume school work at their home tomorrow. Another family we know from Nebraska, the Peacheys, stayed with us the first night and also offered us the use of their home. That seems like a God thing.



If everything goes well, Matthew will likely have a lengthy convalescence. We’ll try to send info periodically. Please continue to pray for him, and especially for his lung and brain trauma.



Terry (for Gina)


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Matt Wolfer


Many of you are aware of the accident that Matt Wolfer had yesterday.  Daniel is a first cousin of Matt’s mother, Gina Yutzy-Wolfer, and he has talked to her twice since the accident — and one of those times was this afternoon.


At this point, the best thing we can do for Matt is pray.  He is very battered.  He has much damage to his facial bones, there are skull fractures, and the rest of his body is quite broken as well.  There are broken ribs, a broken sternum and a broken pelvis.  There are several things that are of most urgent concern.  The first is that, though there was no puncture to his lungs, there are multiple lung contusions, and the danger of pneumonia is quite real.  Also, as the swelling increases, and there is great concern about his brain and the injuries there.


Last night, when they decreased his sedation, there was some response, but Gina said that it was very minimal and there has been nothing since.  She said that they will be taking him out of sedation periodically to evaluate his responses.  The doctors told her that the next three to five days are critical.


Terry and Gina have friends who live only thirty minutes away from the hospital and they have graciously offered a place for them to be.  Their younger son, David is with them. 


Please pray for this family.  What actually happened to cause the wreck is uncertain.  It was a single car accident, and it appears that Matt drifted off the roadway into some trees.   He was on his way to Rosedale Bible College and was about 3 hours from home when the accident happened.


 

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She would have liked it.  The service she so carefully planned.  We all did our best, and I could almost see her peering over the edge of Glory saying, “You’d better get it RIGHT!”  (We tried, Dear Friend, we tried!)


I have been trying to remember how it was that we became friends.  There were so many years of laughter and suppers out and confidences shared and good, good times. 


 I remember one time while Certain Man was still a self employed plumber that we girls, Ethel and I, decided to go out for lunch together.  This was something we never did without our husbands, but we felt like doing something different for a change, so we made our plans and were amused at our husbands’ exaggeratedly aggrieved airs.  They made some mention of having a secret of their own, but these fellows often made such statements that were intended to arouse curiosity.  We settled ourselves comfortably in the restaurant of our choice on this particular day, and had just gotten our salads, when who should come down the aisle but our two men.  We were both surprised, but even more astonished when they continued past our table, on around the restaurant to a table on the other side.  (The had gotten the hostess to take them on this deliberate parade around the restaurant)   There they ate their lunch with the highest, mightiest air imaginable.  We thought maybe they came to be nice to us (NOPE!)  or to pay our lunch for us.  (They didn’t.)  We thought maybe they wanted us to come join them.  (Negatory!)  Something!!! We could hardly believe that they were miffed about us going out without them.  (They were!)  We secretly thought it was pretty funny, but I suppose you could say the guys won that one.  We never did that again.


The road was not all easy.  We didn’t always understand each other, and sometimes, understanding,  chose different ways of responding.  I am so thankful for these last few years when we could reconnect, forgive each other, learn to extend grace to each other, and there, found a friendship that was was rich and full and rewarding.


Ah, my Ethel Friend.  You were a friend that sharpened me as iron sharpens iron.  You made me think, you made me go back again and again to God’s Holy Word to see just what it REALLY said.  You were full of courage, you didn’t ever consider anything more important than TRUTH, and you were never afraid of confrontation.  I can truly say that I do not remember a time when you were cowed by what people thought.


You were strong.  You were consistent.  You were beautiful.  You loved JR and John and Brian and Evanna and Brianna and Briar with a love that sought their good, knew them intrinsically, and in the harsh, heartbreaking knowledge of your soon homegoing,  equipped them for life without you, and made incredible memories.


Today, surrounded by so many people whom you loved and who loved you, I find my heart so numb.  The busy-ness of these last few days was easier for me than the waiting of the last few weeks.  There was finally something to DO besides wait.  But in that busy-ness, I feel a numbness, a sense of the surreal.  Right now, I am so thankful that you are done with this old world and its heartache and pain and suffering and disappointment and grief and loss.  But there will be a time — No, there will be many times when I will look for that smile, when I will listen for that inimitable voice that so often said, “Yes, but, Mary Ann——-!!!!”  and I will miss the friendship of a gal whose very difference from me gave me reason to love her.


I’ll see you in The Morning!

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 . . . And so, she’s finally HOME!


Ethel, my comrade, friend, buddy and pal —


How very much I shall miss you!


www.xanga.com/Organic_Survivor


 

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Be careful out there!!!!

Wreck 2


Wreck!


Route 36 is really slick!  You all be careful!!!!


This is what just happened in our front yard.


(Nobody is hurt.  Thank God!)


(And it isn’t our vehicle.  Thank God!)


(But I feel really sorry for the nice young man who was driving this pickup — he was on his way to work, and a patch of black ice surprised him.)

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Our Family had a wedding!!!!


Joni Alene Slaubaugh married Daniel Geissinger
(Honestly, Joni!  What kind of name is that?!?!?!)


JW Dan and Joni


The day was cold, but that didn’t dampen any of the spirits, for sure!


JW Dan's Grandpa preachesJW Repeating the Vows


Dan’s Grandpa, Adam Espenshade, brought the message, and Joni’s pastor, John David Swartzentruber perfomed the ceremony.


JW Dan and Joni 3


Mr. and Mrs. Dan Geissinger


JW Cutting the cake     JW Cutting the cake 2


The cake was cut and sweetly fed . . .


JW The receptionJW The reception 3


In a most tastefully decorated “Barn.”


JW The reception 4


Dan is a train enthusiast, and so the decorations were centered around that theme


JW The Reception 2 JW The reception 1


Around the centerpieces were small trains, and these little wooden train whistles. 
(Since there were no glasses to tap, the whistles served as the irritating call for a kiss!)


Some of these pictures were taken by Ashley Copenhaver.  Some were my own,  (and I honestly do not know whose were who at this point.  If it is a good picture, it was Ashley’s.  Otherwise, blame me.)


Here are a few family pictures.  I seem to have missed out on the ones I really wanted — of Sarah and Bert’s family.  So these will have to do.


JW Watching and waiting JW Joe and his sweet gal


The Bride’s Sister with her Mom and Dad.  Joni’s brother Joe with his gal, Tasha


JW Edie JW Joni and her brothers


Little sister, Edie has a pensive moment, while Joni poses with her brothers.


JW Mama and the couple


I don’t know what was so funnny, but I love this picture of my Mom with Joni and Dan.


Faces in the Crowd


JW  Jerrel and Alma JW Queena


JW MIke JW Lauren


JW Beloved Son in Law  JW Uncle Nelson with Jadon


 


JW Heidi and Uncle Mark


 


JW Bert and Maria


 


JW  Josh and Maria


JW  Elmer Bug eyed


“If I can survive this, I’m quite sure, I can survive anything!!!”


 


 


 


 


 

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Yippee!!!!


Some pictures from Raph’s Trek!


He said he would send some and he did!!!


(Well, two, that is . . .)


Web Bokhara, Itrek 1


 


 


Web Trekking-Langtang 077 2


(But he didn’t give me any explanations, so you all will just have to enjoy the scenery and imagine where they are and what they are doing.).


 

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